Being labeled as “fat” is more than just an insult; it’s deeply hurtful and damaging. Recently, a mother of two, Allison Kimmey, shared a personal incident that occurred while she and her kids were swimming, sparking a discussion on body positivity and self-acceptance.
Allison’s response to her 30-year-old daughter calling her obese was remarkable. Her reply has since gone viral for its profound wisdom. Having started dieting at the young age of 14, Allison has been on a journey toward self-acceptance.
Despite maintaining a size two to four throughout graduate school, she never felt truly content. It wasn’t until three years ago, at age 27 and a size eight, that she realized happiness came from embracing her body’s natural changes.
In an effort to motivate herself and inspire others, Allison created the @allisonkimmey Instagram account, where she shares empowering images and quotes. While her message of body acceptance resonates with many, it has not been universally received.
During a recent pool outing with her children, Allison’s daughter shouted at her, calling her fat. Rather than reacting with anger or upset, Allison used the moment to impart an important lesson to her children.
She responded with a calm and thoughtful conversation. Here’s an excerpt from Allison’s Instagram post:
Me: “What did you say about me?” Her: “I said you were fat, mama. I’m sorry.” Me: “Let’s talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy.
Do you have fat?” Her: “Yes! I have some here on my tummy.” Me: “That’s right! So do I, and so does your brother!” Her brother: “I don’t have any fat. I’m the skinniest. I just have muscles.” Me: “Actually, everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts.”
Her brother: “Oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me.” Me: “Yes, that’s true. Some people have a lot, and others don’t have very much. But that doesn’t mean that one person is better than the other.
Do you both understand?” Both: “Yes, mama.” Me: “So can you repeat what I said?” Them: “Yes! I shouldn’t say someone is fat because you can’t be just fat, but everyone HAS fat, and it’s okay to have different fat.” Me: “Exactly right!”
Allison aimed to teach her children about respectful language and the importance of equality regardless of body shape. Her Instagram post went viral because it beautifully illustrates how shaming for using the word “fat” perpetuates the harmful stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical, or undesirable.
Instead, Allison encourages us to uplift each other and avoid judgment based on appearances. It’s time to change the narrative and prioritize kindness and acceptance. Share this message if you agree!
